A PUZZLE

Many times I have tried to make a change only to fail. I think, “I just don’t have enough self control or will power.” I am beginning to believe that changing is less about control or power over our identity and more about gentleness and compassion toward self. I think I am complex puzzle not a simple individual and it's when I recognize and know who I am that I am able to piece the puzzle together that precipitates change. Could this be self-esteem?